Knowing these common legacy pitfalls can help your family avoid them.

Family coach and author Roy Williams surveyed more than 3,000 families and found that over 90% of family wealth transfers fail by the end of the third generation. But in this context, what does “fail” really mean?

A failed wealth transfer can mean several things: a disappearance of the familyʼs financial wealth, the dissipation of important memories and values, and even intense discord among  family members. So why is this happening so frequently, and how can you help prevent the same thing from occurring within your own family?

Here are five of the most common reasons money doesnʼt survive wealth transfers over multiple generations.

Lack of meaningful communication

Itʼs critical for multiple generations of a family to engage in clear, open dialog, which sets the foundation for successfully passing down both financial assets and important values. Getting to know how each of your family members prefers to communicate can also decrease the possibility of family discord. Encouraging clear communication can mitigate many of the reasons wealth transfers fail. Dialogue should center on aspects that go beyond just financial wealth.

Little or no shared vision

Once your family is engaged in meaningful communication, the next step is to define your shared vision. Moving in contradictory directions will eventually seed conflict, so build common ground by identifying what youʼre all working toward. What do you want your familyʼs legacy to look like? What family qualities do you want your great-grandchildren to still value? Giving each person a chance to clearly communicate his or her interests will increase understanding by all, and itʼll help the purpose and positive impact of your familyʼs financial wealth.

Disregard for intangible assets

When family communication focuses too much on financial wealth, the opportunity to foster a sense  of gratitude can be lost. Be sure youʼre also communicating about things that go beyond money – like your core values, the experiences that have had the greatest impact on your life, and the philanthropic causes you care about most. Structured communications around these non- financial topics can help refocus everyone on what matters most: your family unit.

Erosion of trust and transparency

You may have heard the adage “transparency breeds trust.” Well, it also goes the other way: If family members believe transparency is lacking, trust can also erode. Transparency does not necessarily mean disclosing your net worth to every family member, but it does mean including them in discussions about the intended purpose of wealth youʼll pass down. Encourage family members to ask questions throughout your family dialogs, and be as open as you can with your answers.

Attitude of entitlement, not gratitude

If thereʼs one emotion that helps support wealth transfer success, itʼs gratitude. When family members are focused on what money can do for them, overspending and misuse soon follow. But by communicating about both financial and intangible wealth and participating together in charitable events, you can slowly strengthen an attitude of gratitude.

Itʼs not always easy to navigate the complexities of family wealth. But with open communication and the guidance of a trusted financial advisor, you can begin these important conversations and help set your family up for wealth transfer success.

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